Sunday, May 25, 2014

Pride

Pride


Definition:

pride


noun
1. a high or inordinate opinion of one's own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.
2. the state or feeling of being proud.
3. a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one's position or character; self-respect; self-esteem.
4. pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself: civic pride. 
5. something that causes a person or persons to be proud: His art collection was the pride of the family.
 
 
Last evening, my husband and I were talking about the lack of pride we notice in many individuals work.  When we grew up in a burbs, south of Cleveland, Ohio, pride was exhibited around every corner.  Coming up on my 55th birthday next month and my husband closing in on 56, we both have witnessed numerous generations.  When did individuals stop exhibiting pride in their work?  I may have blinked and missed that memo. 
Pride.  A short word with a large definition.  When was the last time you were proud of yourself, your actions, your work or even a friend or family member? 
As a nation, every American should take pride in our armed forces.  These women and men put their lives on the line everyday, for us.  Although each living being, has their personal viewpoints on the state of our great nation, we should all be united and say a prayer for every man or woman who have given their lives for our freedom.  Take pride in your country. 
Memorial day isn't about hot dogs, barbeque's, beer, partying or the beginning of the summer season, it's about Remembering and honoring our fallen solders who sacrificed their lives for us.
Please take a moment and remember.
Happy Memorial Day 2014.

Donna

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Friday, May 16, 2014

Your Help is Needed

It is said, "Karma's a Bitch," but what does that mean to you?  I believe everyone has a karma story and I am in search of yours. 

What is Karma? According to Wikipedia, the definition is as follows:

Karma is the universal principle of cause and effect. Our actions, both good and bad, come back to us in the future, helping us to learn from life’s lessons and become better people. In religions that include reincarnation, karma extends through one's present life and all past and future lives as well.
Karma is basically energy. One person throws out energy through thoughts, words and actions, and it comes back, in time, through other people. Karma is the best teacher, forcing people to face the consequences of their actions and thus improve and refine their behavior, or suffer if they do not. Even harsh karma, when faced in wisdom, can be the greatest spark for spiritual growth. The conquest of karma lies in intelligent action and unemotional response.

Examples of karma[change | change source]

The process of action and reaction on all levels—physical, mental and spiritual—is karma. One must pay attention to thoughts, because thought can make karmas—good, bad and mixed.[1]
“I say kind words to you, and you feel peaceful and happy. I say harsh words to you, and you become ruffled and upset. The kindness and the harshness will return to me, through others, at a later time. Finally, what I give is what I get back.”
“An architect thinks creative, productive thoughts while drawing plans for a new building. But were he to think destructive, unproductive thoughts, he would soon not be able to accomplish any kind of positive task even if he desired to do so.”

Karma in Hinduism[change | change source]

Hindus look at time as a circle, as things cycle around again. Karma is a very just law which, like gravity, treats everyone the same. The law of karma puts man at the center of responsibility for everything he does and everything that is done to him. Understanding the way karma works, Hindus try to live a virtuous life. This is called dharma.
There are three types of karma in Hinduism:
  1. sanchita karma, the sum total of past karmas yet to be resolved;
  2. prarabdha karma, that portion of sanchita karma that is to be experienced in this life; and
  3. kriyamana karma, the karma that humans are currently creating, which will bear fruit in future.

The role of divine forces[change | change source]

Karma is considered one of the natural laws of the mind, just as gravity is a law of matter. Just as God created gravity to bring order to the physical world, He created karma as a divine system of justice that is self-governing and infinitely fair. It automatically creates the appropriate future experience in response to the current action.
Several different views exist in Hinduism regarding the role of divine beings. In Hinduism, many see the deities or devas as playing some kind of role. Other Hindus, such as the Mimamsakas, reject such notions and see karma as acting independently, considering the natural laws of causation sufficient to explain the effects of karma.[2][3][4]
Some interpretations of the Bhagavad Gita[5] suggest an intermediate view, that karma is a law of cause and effect yet God can mitigate karma for His devotees. It is said in Bhagavad Gita that only the karma that is done with a sense of doership and with attachment to the karma could cause good or bad reactions. Karma that is done with an attitude of duty and without attachment to the results will not create any effect and will move one closer to God.
Another view holds that a Satguru, acting on God's behalf, can mitigate or work out some of the karma of the disciple.[6][7][8]

Do you have a Karma story you would like to share?  I am in the process of writing a book about this subject and individuals experience and if we recognize it as karma.
If you know or yourself have a story to share with me about this subject, and wish for your story to be in my book, please send me an email to: write2donnalively@gmail.com.  I will contact you about your story, via email.

Everyone have experienced karma.  Think back on your life and pull forward these memories. 
I'll share one experience:
When my first husband and I were getting married, we requested an ADULT only reception.  Many reasons went into this decision.  Regardless, this is what we had written on our RSVP's.  One family member who had three young children did not understand our reasons why we chose this.  The family along with the children celebrated our ceremony at our Catholic church with us, but decided not to celebrate our reception with us due to the fact their young children were not invited.
After all was said and done and my new husband and I opened the wedding gifts, inside their envelope was 3, $1.00 bills.  One from each of their small children.  Did we get it? Sure we did, but since my father and mother paid for our wedding (and they have 5 other daughters to eventually pay for weddings for) I respected my parents generosity and we did not have children attend our reception.
Years, and I am saying many years later, the daughter of this particular family who gifted us $3.00, was planning her wedding.  To our surprise, when we received the invitation to celebrate their day with them, on the RSVP card was ADULT RECETION ONLY!  Hmmm, now that they had to fork out the funds to pay for their only daughters wedding things changed.  I label it as KARMA.  What goes around, comes around.

Please send me your stories about Karma in your life. 
I'm anxious to hear your stories.

Donna,
write2donnalively@gmail.com
 

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Mothers Day



What does Mothers Day mean to you?  I am a mother of two adult children; daughter and son, and step-mother to two adult sons.  I grew up with five siblings.  I am the third of six girls.  My mother and I, as I recall, have never been close.  When I say close, I don't mean distance close, I mean emotionally close.  Was it my doing or hers?  That I'm not sure about.  Within this past year, I've discovered , though one of my sisters, my mother has disowned me and has taken me out of her will.  Why one asks?  Because I wrote a book and she did not like how I depicted her in it.  Does this upset me?  Honestly I have to answer, no. 

Not every mother is a June Cleaver and this is true of mine.  With six daughters, the first four, all a year- and- a- half apart in age, life must have been crazy busy for her.  The fifth arrived five years after number four and the sixth, a year and a half after number five.

 
By the time I married the first time, at age nineteen, my two younger sisters, (7 & 9 years younger than myself) were still quite young.  I feel as though us four older ones were mom and dad's practice children.  When five and six arrived, our parents become more relaxed.  Relaxed both in discipline and life itself. 

 
My mom celebrated her 78th birthday last month.  I sent her a birthday card along with copies of my current books I've written.  Due to her disowning me, I never heard a word or thank you from her.  Perhaps she threw the books away.  My hope is she donated them. 
 

With Mothers Day a few days away, I've grown to realize that a mother isn't your mother only because she gave birth to you.  A mother loves her children unconditionally.  No one is perfect and should not be taught you must be perfect to be loved. 

 
I love my children unconditionally.  It has not always been comfortable.  My daughter and son are five years apart in age.  Daughter older.  I did the best with what knowledge I had  to raise them to be honest, respectful, hard-working and loving children.  Have they always made me proud?  I will say no, but that does not mean I love them any less. 

 
A true mother loves her children whether her children grow to be a president of a successful company or an artist who sees life differently than herself.  Mothers should not judge their children's individual assets  or faults.  A mother should welcome her children's quirks, not judge them.

 
Believe me when I say, times have not always been easy with my kids.  Hence why I have to dye my hair to cover the greys they've given me.  But regardless, I love them more than life itself.  I may not see them daily, weekly or at times yearly, but my children know I am always there for them no matter what. 

 
On this Mothers day, I want to with my dear friend, Jane Herman a wonderful, unforgettable Mothers Day.  She is closer to me than my birth mother has ever been to me. 

Thank you Jane for accepting me for me, loving me for who I am, and not judging me.

Have a wonderful day!  I love you!